Friendship, Boundaries & Silent Lurkers: When the Vibe Shifts

In this episode of Name To Be Determined, Amanda and Amelia get real about the unspoken rules of modern friendship — from “monitoring spirits” (the people who watch everything you do online but never show up IRL) to the slow fade of friendships that no longer fit.

They unpack emotional imbalance, unmet expectations, and the uncomfortable truth that not every friendship is meant to last forever. Amelia shares a personal moment of feeling let down by a long-term friend, sparking a wider conversation about boundaries, categorising friendships, and knowing when it’s time to let go.

They also talk about how to confront friends with honesty (without blowing everything up), the grief of friendships ending without closure, and why British politeness sometimes keeps us stuck in relationships we’ve outgrown.

Honest, relatable, and gently savage — this one’s for anyone who’s felt the vibe shift and wondered if they’re imagining it.