Name To Be Determined

The Tinder Swindler: Amelia’s Lockdown Con Story

Amelia introduces an archive episode of “Name To Be Determined” inspired by the “Tinder Swindler,” then she and Amanda chat about pet peeves before discussing the “Love Fraud” documentary about con man Richard Scott Smith.
Amelia shares her own lockdown Tinder experience with a man who bragged about money, claimed repeated crises (lost wallet, arrests, fines, lawyer fees, COVID and hospitalization), and persuaded her to lend escalating sums, including a £1,500 transfer, while promising designer gifts and trips. After giving some money back earlier, he disappeared, provided only a partial address, and continued stalling, leading Amelia to conclude she was scammed, a lesson she attributes partly to their shared St. Vincent connection.
They end with a humorous 1933 toilet paper ad and podcast plugs.
 

The Small Moments That Quietly Changed Us

Amanda and Amelia are back with their weekly Turning vs Grinding check-in, and this episode spirals from overpriced editors to spiritual awakenings, friendship revelations, and the weirdly tiny moments that end up changing your entire life.
Amelia shares a recent grind after searching for a developmental editor for her book and realising a past acquaintance once quoted her £10,000 without even asking the right questions first. The girls unpack the strange world of creative industries, confidence, pricing, and learning when someone might be taking advantage.
Meanwhile, Amanda’s turn is a wholesome Easter break filled with quality family time, including the rarest event of all: a teenager voluntarily joining a picnic.
The conversation then shifts into the episode’s main theme:the random moments, comments, and experiences that quietly shaped who they became.
They get into:• Advice from screenwriter Tony Jordan that completely changed Amelia’s view of writing careers• The birthday moment that revealed hidden hostility in a friendship• Amelia unexpectedly speaking at AA and being confronted with her own drinking habits• Why certain spiritual books only “find you” when you’re ready• The Secret, Conversations With God, and evolving self-concept• Learning to receive money, opportunities, and support differently• Tiny parenting moments that unexpectedly deepen connection• The difference between wanting millions… and wanting purpose
Funny, reflective, chaotic, and unexpectedly emotional — this episode is all about the moments that seemed small at the time… but changed everything later.

Hills We’ll Die On: Boundaries, Potential & Performative Outrage

Amanda and Amelia are back with a Turning vs Grinding check-in before stepping firmly onto their most unapologetic opinions, aka the hills they’re absolutely dying on.
Amelia is turning after cutting down phone time and feeling more productive (growth, discipline, we love it), while Amanda is grinding over people — including delivery drivers — letting themselves into her home without knocking. Boundaries? Gone. Manners? Missing. Doors? Apparently optional.
Then it’s time for the main event: the hills.
They get into:• Why working on your own trauma is non-negotiable• The uncomfortable convo around having children without financial stability• Why some believe men shouldn’t start families without having their lives in order• The difference between building together vs trying to fix someone• Why dating potential is a losing game• Friendship dynamics when core values don’t align• The importance of consent before giving “real talk” advice
The conversation then sharpens into cultural commentary:• Cancel culture vs actual accountability• The rise of performative outrage and selective activism• When online advocacy becomes branding• The gap between what people post and how they actually live
It’s honest, a little controversial, and very much “we said what we said.”
Because sometimes a hill isn’t about being right, it’s about refusing to move.

Petty, But Spiritually Grounded: Matching Energy Without Spiritual Bypassing

Amanda and Amelia are recording remotely and kicking off with their weekly Turning vs Grinding — and the energy is very self-aware.
Amelia is turning, feeling freer sharing her work without overthinking or attachment to outcomes (growth, we love to see it). Amanda is grinding over people who refuse to let others make their own choices — a special kind of control disguised as concern.
Then they get into it:
Is being petty actually wrong… or just honest?
The conversation dives into the blurry line between pettiness, boundaries, and “low vibrational” behaviour, and whether dismissing your feelings in the name of “healing” is actually just spiritual bypassing in a cute outfit.
They unpack:
• Petty vs justified — and why the line isn’t always clear
• The pressure to be the “bigger person” (and why it’s exhausting)
• Whether “matching energy” is empowerment or passive aggression
• Why not every emotion needs to be suppressed to be “evolved”
• Social media boundaries: muting, blocking, unfollowing for peace
Plus, real-life scenarios including:
• Unsupportive friends who expect hype but give nothing back
• One-sided friendships you suddenly clock
• Cancelling plans out of spite (be honest)
• Rude coworkers who don’t deserve your extra effort
• The silent power of muting people who don’t engage
• Pre-emptive blocking (yes, we went there)
The conclusion?
Being the bigger person is cute… but sometimes being honest, setting boundaries, and protecting your energy matters more.
Funny, self-aware, and just the right amount of petty.
 

Emotionally Intelligent… or Just Performing? The Internet’s Healing Era

Amanda and Amelia are back with their weekly Turning vs Grinding — and for once, it’s giving growth.
Amelia is turning after her daughter gets into her chosen secondary school (we love a win 🥹), while Amanda shares a quieter shift: finally being able to let misaligned people exit her life without spiralling. Growth, but make it peaceful.
Then they get into the real question:
Are we becoming more emotionally intelligent… or just more emotionally theatrical?
From TikTok therapists to “healing era” captions, the girls unpack how social media has blurred the line between genuine growth and performance.
They get into:
• The rise of performative healing and aesthetic breakdowns
• Why trauma is starting to look like content
• The monetisation of grief, vulnerability, and “doing the work”
• Buzzwords like narcissist, gaslighting, and “no contact” are being overused
• Why does not every feeling need to be labelled, posted, or explained
• The pressure to constantly be evolving — publicly
They question whether we’ve started packaging our pain for validation, and whether real healing is actually much quieter (and less Instagrammable) than we’ve been led to believe.
Because maybe growth isn’t a rebrand.
Maybe it’s just… getting on with it.
The episode wraps with a Mood Management™ moment and where to find the hosts.

Covid Flashbacks, Vaccine Divides & Laughing Through the Chaos

Amanda and Amelia are back with their weekly Turning vs Grinding — and this one starts wholesome before spiralling (naturally).
Amanda shares a rare morning win: patience, calm, and getting the kids out the door without losing the plot. Growth! Meanwhile, Amelia is dealing with Milo the menace, her independent cat who disappeared for four days, briefly returned to pee in the garden, and left again. Iconic. Disrespectful. On brand.
Then the episode pivots into a reflective (but still funny) look back at Covid life — the stress, the fear, and the absolute chaos of it all.
They get into:
• Lockdown anxiety and the weird rules we all just… accepted
• The vaccine divide and how quickly people were pushed into “sides”
• Feeling judged, silenced, or labelled for personal health choices
• The stress of travel, disclosure, and constantly shifting restrictions
• Post-Covid anxiety and the lingering mental load
• The truly unhinged moments — from park policing to Covid scams
Amanda opens up about choosing not to get vaccinated due to underlying health conditions, and the stigma and pressure that came with it, while Amelia reflects on her experience with long illness and the anxiety that followed.
It’s honest, chaotic, and surprisingly funny — because sometimes the only way to process something that intense… is to laugh at how mad it all was.
The episode wraps with a Mood Management™ moment and where to find the hosts online.

Doomscrolling, Code-Switching & Our Apocalypse “Final Forms”

Amanda and Amelia kick things off with their weekly Turning vs Grinding check-in and a reminder to follow the podcast and leave a review (feed the algorithm gods, please!).
Amelia is grinding over the UK’s relentless grey weather, while Amanda reflects on something deeper: the exhaustion of code-switching as a person of colour.
From there, the conversation widens into the strange emotional whiplash of modern news and social media. One minute, your feed shows footage of war, the next it’s someone rating croissants. The girls ask: Have we become so saturated with breaking news that nothing shocks us anymore?
They unpack:
• The mental load of constant global crisis headlines
• How doomscrolling stresses the nervous system
• Why social media collapses tragedy and triviality into the same feed
• Whether we’ve lost the ability to process big events emotionally
They also debate whether anyone would actually survive a Walking Dead scenario — and why people would probably still try to go viral during the apocalypse.
The episode wraps with a Mood Management™ moment to help regulate doomscroll fatigue, along with a reminder of where to find the hosts online.
 
 

Bare Minimum Boyfriend's & Am I the Asshole?

Amanda and Amelia return with their weekly Turns vs Grinds check-in before diving straight into the annual Valentine’s Day debate. Is it really a “manufactured holiday,” or are some people just allergic to making an effort?
The hosts unpack relationship expectations, emotional labour, and the bare-minimum energy that seems to haunt modern dating.
Then it’s time for the internet’s favourite moral courtroom: Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole?”
This week’s chaotic cases include:
• A bride refusing to let her paralysed father walk her down the aisle.
• A woman leaves her verbally abusive husband after he suddenly becomes nice when he loses his job.
• A fiancé who keeps his mother’s ashes in an unlabelled Tupperware container under the bed.
You can expect unhinged storage decisions, debates over relationship standards, and brutally honest verdicts.
The episode wraps with a Mood Management™ moment that will help you manage life!

Boyfriend or Brand Deal? Dating in the Age of Social Media

Amanda and Amelia are back — battling 2026 London rain, low vitamin D, and the emotional hangover of being back in real life. ☁️
After a quick “turning or grinding” check-in, they dive into the viral question taking over social media: Is it actually embarrassing to have a boyfriend now?
Inspired by a headline-grabbing Vogue article, this episode explores how modern dating, social media, and validation culture have changed the way we experience relationships — and why posting your partner online suddenly feels… questionable.
They get into:
• Why people are hiding their relationships online
• The rise of the “soft launch” vs hard launch debate
• When relationships become content instead of connection
• Oversharing, audience validation, and online pressure
• Why breakups feel worse when they’ve been public
Amanda shares her experience of putting relationships online — and the regret that followed — while Amelia questions whether privacy is the real power move in modern dating.
Because maybe the problem isn’t having a boyfriend… it’s needing the internet to approve of him.
 
 

Friendship, Boundaries & Silent Lurkers: When the Vibe Shifts

In this episode of Name To Be Determined, Amanda and Amelia get real about the unspoken rules of modern friendship — from “monitoring spirits” (the people who watch everything you do online but never show up IRL) to the slow fade of friendships that no longer fit.
They unpack emotional imbalance, unmet expectations, and the uncomfortable truth that not every friendship is meant to last forever. Amelia shares a personal moment of feeling let down by a long-term friend, sparking a wider conversation about boundaries, categorising friendships, and knowing when it’s time to let go.
They also talk about how to confront friends with honesty (without blowing everything up), the grief of friendships ending without closure, and why British politeness sometimes keeps us stuck in relationships we’ve outgrown.
Honest, relatable, and gently savage — this one’s for anyone who’s felt the vibe shift and wondered if they’re imagining it.